Okay, okay, I know, I've already ranted about this whole Twilight thing, the books, and the merchandise etc. But you know the latest movie just came out, and it started up a conversation between me and my husband, so of course if I don't get this all out, it will fester!!! So my cousin's sweet wife called me up the other day and said that she had two extra tickets to go see the new movie, Eclipse. She offered them to me, and although I'm not one of those crazy fans, I did like the last two movies, (not enough to watch them more than once) but enough to have gone with the girls to see them... any excuse for a girls' night out is good for me, (plus, who turns down a free movie!) So I grabbed a friend and we went to see it. Pretty good, not a favorite or anything, but it wasn't a total waste! So anyways it got me thinking about this whole Twilight craze and all the grown women who lust after these young Hollywood actors and how uncomfortable that makes me, and of course how all the cute little tweens and teens are obsessed with this as well. I won't pick apart the writing again, so save your groans, I will of course mention how hairy and unattractive I think Cedric Diggory is, and how I don't think that old what's-his-name should have ever been cast as Edward, and how much I hate the girl that they got to play Rosalie... AHH, I'm getting off track, okay, so this was the basic rant of my conversation with hub:
How on earth is Edward attractive (not the actor, the character.) He's a STALKER... he watches her sleep, he follows her everywhere to make sure she's "safe" he's COMPLETELY obsessed with her... his entire life revolves around her, he has no other hobbies, he's entire existence completely depends on Bella, to me this is not romantic, it's creepy... why on earth is he so darn creepy? When he thinks she is dead, he tries to kill himself, um... maybe just a tad extreme? I mean, I adore my husband, I love him more than anything in the whole wide world, and I would be absolutely heartbroken if he died, but life goes on and eventually I would get over it and continue to live my life. So this is the message we are giving our young girls? Hey girls, find a guy who is so obsessed with you that you won't ever be able to get rid of him?
Bella. In the book she is a little more opinionated and sassy, but in the movie she is a lot less self loathing and annoying... she is also obsessed with Edward, she continually tries to get him to lower his standards and sleep with her, she hates the concept of marriage, she hates the fact that she might get older, and when Edward leaves her, she completely shuts down and can't function until he returns, oh wait, no I'm sorry, she can sort of function when she's with Jacob, that's much better isn't it? So apparently she's not strong enough to get it together on her own, she has to have him in order to be happy. She leads Jacob on and continually hurts him, but apparently this is all okay, because the entire world is supposed to revolve around her, and as long as she is happy, then I guess it doesn't matter who she hurts and what she does. Oh and when she decides to marry him it's not because she loves him and wants to be with him, it's because it's the only way to get what she wants... also a great message, marriage isn't for love it's for getting what you want!
Am I wrong here? Is this not the worst romantic scenario to be feeding our daughters
and OURSELVES!!! We are taking our young girls and letting them read these books, and watch these movies and telling them how wonderful they are and how we wish our husband/boyfriend was more like Edward? I can't possibly be the only person who thinks this is ludicrous!!! I have a seven year old daughter. I love that little girl more than anything, I want her to have HEALTHY relationships as she gets older. I want her to believe in love, and all the happiness that it can bring. I want her to be confident enough in herself so that being in a relationship with a man doesn't "make or break her" it doesn't define who she is. And I sure as heck don't want someone who is completely obsessed with her to smother her and cripple her. Okay, I need to stop now... It has always been my goal that when my children were grown to go back to school and get my degree as a counselor, because I loved my own counselor and I love how I learned to have healthier relationships with everyone because of my time spent with her. My first client? I'm going to contact Stephenie Meyer and help that girl out, because to me it's obvious that she has some nice issues that she's managed to glorify in her books!!!
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WOW! Is all I can say. I enjoyed the books and the movie but never did I think so much about the plots. Do adult women really LOVE the characters and think the plot is realistic? I guess it was more like a fad of sorts. I know that's how my friends and I view it. Any reason to have a party and get together with the girls. Stay up till midnight. Feel a bit youthful. But really dreading the next day because I didn't get to bed until 3 am! For the most part it's pretty silly and all I can do is laugh at some of the scenes that aren't suppose to be funny. Like the first time Edward see's Bella and looks like he's going to puke, so not romantic. Or how about Jasper, now that's a creeper. Who ever OK'd his hair and make up got it all wrong. I would hope that mother's around the world don't let their daughters read these books and expect them to find love in the same way as Bella and Edward. If that's the case you better register for school PRONTO because their are going to be lot's of girls and women needing your help!!!!
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